1. Pay attention to time and place. It’s better to deal with things privately, and when neither person is stressed, or pushed for time.
2. Be respectful – and give thought to the words that you are using. Don’t attack, blame or shame or use profane, abusive language. (Often “it’s not what you say; it’s the way that you say it.”)
3. Don’t just pile on the negatives, or list all your grievances, hurts and complaints. Make sure you mention things you are grateful for, and things that are good, and are not going wrong.
4. Try to keep to the topic or your point will lose its focus. It’s easier to deal with one thing at a time.
5. Related to this, try to be specific – and not vague and general. Also, name the emotions you are feeling at the time. I
6. Keep control of your emotions, and try to stay calm. Very little will be gained if you start to lose your cool.
7. It’s not about winning and being seen as being right. The goal should be “improving your relationship”
8. Finally, remember that anger often masks and covers hurt – and is actually a sign that the person’s seeking love. So work on building empathy and deepening your love.
w3k:
how come the weird kids who wear trenchcoats and watch like hentai on their school computers have significant others and I don’t
Trump is only two points ahead in Texas now. If you’re in Texas and vote third party or don’t vote this year, I will personally never forgive you for stealing the joy of watching the GOP freak out at Texas going blue from me.
Fellow Texans: DO NOT WRITE IN BERNIE.
He literally does not want your vote, he literally wants you to vote for Hillary, and because of this he did not file to be an approved write-in candidate which means if you write him in your vote literally does not count.
For all voters in all states who were thinking of doing a Bernie write in.
hman:
“…Trump’s star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame was destroyed early Wednesday morning in what looks to be a Tinseltown first.”
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- go 40 minutes without blowing your nose when you have a cold so you don’t have to loudly blow it in front of a group of people
- use extremely dull pencils because you don’t want to sharpen them because that is also loud
- not order what you actually want to eat because people might think it’s strange
- not wear the clothes you want to wear
- wear the clothes you want to wear and then spend the whole day worrying that everyone is judging you
- put down every accomplishment you have ever made for fear of being looked at as different
It won’t get better for LGBT youth of color until we identify and dismantle the ways we’ve normalized racism. Gabe hits it on the head:
